Sometimes the fact that there are real people on the other side of your computer screen gets forgotten. Occasionally, people might say something without realizing how personal someone else might take it. If/when that happens, there are a few choices to deal with it:
A. play it off like it never happened or say something witty and glib
B. Bite back and draw blood
C. Step away for a little bit and regroup your own thoughts
Most of the time I choose "A". When enough "A" happens, I start to feel like "B", but that's not my style...so I do "C". If I don't step back and take a breath, I'm likely to say something spiteful that I'll regret not being able to take back.
The thing is, you have to treat people with kindness (real life or cyber world) if you want to be at peace with yourself.
My intentions about stepping away from an online community for however long it takes me to center myself have nothing to do with trying to make anyone else leave it in order to come back. It has everything to do with me being at peace with myself for not doing the wrong (yet very tempting and easy) thing.
I'll go back to that community, sooner than later because of all the net-friends I've made who are checking on me (dang near hourly) to see when I'm returning.
I'll go back because I'm working out my own issues, not because someone else left.
I'm talking to you, "lastshot". Don't leave a great group of people because someone had to "take five" and lay low for a while. I'll return in less than 24 hours from posting this and I hope by then you decide that signing out permanently wasn't the best choice.
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What you'll find here: chit chat about firearms, family, randomness that catches my attention, and the occasional great shoe sale.
9 comments:
Are we allowed to cry?
glad you are returning.
You've got a lot of catching up to do, on the 'stoopid question' thread!
I am sure they will be happy to have you back.
I'll bet they were all losing their fricken minds without you.
Sometimes its not easy being a leader...especialy when you didn't sign on to be one, but rather, you are selected by those you lead.
Leader Schmeader. I just ran out of donuts and know where I can find them. :p
We all can't be witty and glib. But I know you try, and that's what counts.
Oh, and even though I am witty and glib, I still step back now and then. (But nobody notices.)
If someone posts a note here as Anonymous, and makes a comment like, "I'm glad someone in your family has talent," or unfathonable references to "Melinda," can you recognize that person by his writing style?
Sometimes I can recognize the web they weave...
;)
Atta girl Annie! Glad you decided that! Always your friend! Elske! Janie
I don't think GooogleBlogs allows the use of the word "Elske."
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